I am one of the lucky few who can actually say that their spouse is truly their “Best Friend”. I thank God for this gift. I have fallen in love with him head over heels once again. This year we will be together for 29 years. Married 24 years. I believe the secret to our success has been love and respect. Without respect, love can not be enough to get through the hard times, the tears, the pain and the hardships. If you find someone you love, you are lucky. If you find someone you love and respect, you are blessed. Keep in mind they must respect you as well. We as parents, have tried to keep this in mind raising our two boys. If you treat someone how you want to be treated, usually they will respond with the same respect. If you embarrass someone, they will usually recoil and not want to respond to your requests or relationship. If your parenting skills involve punishment instead of discipline, usually they will rebel. Live in the mantra, that was an old message from someone who loves you more than you will ever know…….. “Do unto others as you would have done unto you.” -GOD Pretty simple, yet so hard to remember each and every day for so many.
When I went through all of my health issues over the years of our marriage, I always knew that Brian would be there for me. He never made me feel as if I was a burden. He always stepped up to the plate and always batted 1,000. When I had my accident this past November, (fainted and broke 5 teeth, fractured 7, 5 stitches to the chin, blood work to figure out why I fainted diagnosed me with Celiac Disease after an endoscopy and colonoscopy confirmed) Brian became my biggest support system that I could never imagine. The diligence of watching everything I eat (gluten free, dairy free and soft foods for my dental issues) was phenomenal. I couldn’t imagine going through such a difficult extreme change in lifestyle without his love and support.
I want the world to know that I would do the same for him in a heartbeat. I want the world to know just how your actions towards a loved one can impact their lives and emotions so deeply that it can change their perspective on what “LOVE” truly is. It is more than romantic gestures of gifts and travel (although I love and appreciate those gifts he has given our family immensely ). More than buying them a nice car or home in the best neighborhood. It is the hard times. Knowing that they have your back. Knowing that the respect you have shared over the years can make your love grow each and every day.
So, today, remember what you say, how you say it, what you do, and how you do it, can change someones life forever. Live with intention. Love with extreme selflessness. Laugh from your soul.
Sending you all Angels, Love and Light,